We like to think of ourselves as being positive people. At the same time, we always mange to find something that annoys us in the others or some other source of displeasure. We accommodate such negative thoughts, and we sometimes even express them vocally.
That’s why we must prowl over ourselves like a predator does with its prey. We must be all ears to the things we are saying. If that looks hard, begin by recording yourself or by writing the things you say down…
Let’s establish for ourselves firm criteria for differentiating between the positive and negative things we utter:
NO (NEGATIVE) – Each conditional answer lacking clarity of speech or thought, one that is characterized by indecisiveness, hesitancy, doubt or lack of confidence. THIS IS OUR AFFIRMATIVE “NO”!
YES (POSITIVE) – Each clearly and firmly expressed stance on something, each definite agreement and decision. THIS IS OUR AFFIRMATIVE “YES”!
If you catch yourself thinking or saying the same negative phrase three times, you should write it down. This way you will create a list of your negative phrases, conditional answers and doubts:
Few examples of negative phrases: Life is hard; I don’t have the time; I’m short on money; Maybe; I doubt it; Hopefully; It is pretty clear that I am going nowhere with that; I don’t know if I am going anywhere with that; I get sick each given winter; When the time is right; Only if it’s possible; It happened by accident; I don’t know about it; It was unintentional; My expectations are that…; I wonder if; and so on.
Follow the path by accepting both “critique coming from the outside” as well as “ones that’s coming from within”. Generally speaking, all that people care about is themselves. Therefore, their critique is an expression to their desire of involving you into their own state of being, so that they might not be feeling alone. Thus, they either try to turn you into the victims that they themselves feel like, or they try to exert superiority over you, thus reinforcing their sense of individuality and uniqueness. Through our masked honesty, and without paying any substantial attention to the details in the behavior of the others, or to the environment as a whole, we come up with all kinds of arguments that we label as “constructive critique”. One that is ostensibly intended to help the others. But such version is easily debunked, when we come to realize that the true wish of the ones critiquing us is actually to integrate us inside their environment, albeit without them being aware of that. That’s why we should be having fun when some critique is coming our way. And while on the wings of that fun we are having with it, we should after all consider what can we do about changing ourselves.
Example: “You are such a moron.” One way to have fun with this critique is by simply asking ourselves what if moron is actually shortened for “having more going on”? The energy we have accumulated in the forms of anger, insult, guilt, self-pitying etc. is better off converted into energy that is driving us to be doing more and more (to be having more going on for us). Thus, we would arrive at the conclusion that there is no such thing as failure, therefore we should not be feeling blocking our energy flow by feeling down because we did something, which might be stupid in the eyes of the others. The more we do, the more experience we accumulate, the more energy is passing through us, the more we have going on. Such a moron indeed. 😊
Examples for converting your energy:
Well, I’m a moron. I guess I’ll have to do more than other people do, in order to get it right. But that’s fine, because this way I will also learn more. – Repeat this reaffirmation at all times, at each given moment, all while having fun with the reaffirmation itself in the moment it pops up in your head. And in the very moment it comes to you, you already have more going on. This would put a smile on your face, and it would fuel you with the confidence to persist with the reaffirmation. Know that any desire for exercising control over the circumstances or situation related to this reaffirmation would result in the opposite effect (e.g. by being impatient you will kill both the fun and the learning process) – i.e. you will neither accumulate any learning experience or derive joy and pleasure out of the process. Therefore, just play along, have fun with whatever is that you are doing, thus realizing the very reaffirmation in the process. In their turn, the cells of the body would accumulate this information as cellular memory, and whatever is that you might undertake, you will see it as a fun activity worthy of your concentration and proper attention. Of course, this whole process would require your patience and persistence, because letting go of the control and beginning to really have fun with the things you do, tends to happen “unintentionally”. We overcome laziness and the unwillingness to try out new things, and we begin to attune the body and the cells to the above reaffirmation, thus making curiosity and the desire to learn an integral part of our being. This happens one step at a time by starting small – say, by beginning to learn about some keyboard shortcuts you can use on your PC, which will optimize your workflow as you go along. This way, you will be able to see the benefits of your learning right way. The more you progress with learning new things, the more time it would take to see the actual benefits, but after a certain point, you would have accustomed yourself into focusing on the actual process itself.
How to let go of our stale filters in a hurry?
This is one quick and efficient way to part with our old filters, convictions and beliefs that are not serving us. How is it done? Go without water for 9-10 days. This might sound like a stressful thing to put our organism though, but it will actually enjoy it. When we deprive the cells from the externally inflowing water that they are used to, they begin to break down all the excessive things in our body, which is how they supply themselves with water during that dry period. This results in the intense assimilation of all the excessive and unnecessary substances we hold inside ourselves. When the process is done, the cells are attuned to functioning without any external water. They have adjusted themselves into breaking down the excessive things in our organisms, which is how they get their water. The secret that makes this method a working one is the fact that the water has memory, which means that all of our filtrations are imprinted and stored as frequencies onto its memory. Until this memory is not being replaced, the filtrations will be functioning in their old ways, regardless of how many reaffirmations we come up with. Again, any attempts to exercise control over the process will result in the opposite of our preferred outcome. In the period when we are not consuming any water, we might eat fruits (but no juices or smoothies), veggies, we can spend more time under the shower, or we can do what a lot of athletes do – pour some water in your mouth, gargle it for 30 seconds and then spit it out. Thus, we would will be deceiving our tongue receptors (which will then send signals to our brain) as if we are drinking water, thus quenching our thirst in the process of our holistic cleansing.