The methods and techniques provided below can be applied by anyone. Just don’t forget that you should be looking for the method that will help you to accomplish your goals and not the one that seems most comfortable and convenient to you. Actually, the purpose of most exercises below is to disrupt your precious state of comfort, which of course should not discourage you in any way from going ahead and trying them out. The idea is not to ‘’fight your way’’ through the exercises, but to have as much fun as you can while doing them. The idea is for you to become just like the kids – to begin sharing their attitude towards anything new and unfamiliar. Ask yourself ‘’What will happen if…’’, then explore what’s really happening after and persist with doing the thing until you don’t start deriving pleasure and joy out of it. All for the sake of trying something new out! Another thing to keep in mind is that there is no such thing as universal, one-size-fits-all method or technique. Each individual is unique; therefore, one needs to find his/her unique way that’s working. Even the general set of techniques and instructions given below should be applied in accordance with one’s individuality, as long as one does not use the latter as an excuse for not applying it properly (We know that you can tell the difference between the two). Without any further a due, go ahead and see which self-improvement technique you currently need to focus on:
This reading material appears in the following sections: Cogitality, Module 3, Module 7, Exercises
Exercise in…Honesty and Devotion
A good place to start on your journey to acquiring the habit of being honest with yourself is getting familiar with the technique of analythesis (analysis + synthesis):
In the process of knowledge or experience accumulation, the analysis (from Greek ἀνάλυσις – to unravel, to investigate) is a mental and practical operation by which the whole (such as objects, properties, processes or interrelations between objects and various phenomena) is deconstructed into its respective constituent elements. The method of analysis complements the method of synthesis in the overall process of obtaining information about the examined object’s structural arrangement.
Synthesis (from Greek σύνθεσις – putting together, composition, combination) is the process by which two or more separate elements or components are incorporated into one integral whole. The process of synthesis is the opposite of the analysis (i.e. it is the opposite of deconstruction). The synthesis is a method of examination by which the separate elements are incorporated into one cohesive whole, as the nature of the phenomena in question is being identified in the process. In the process of examining our lives, we are executing both methods simultaneously– we conduct an analythesis.
We examine how the whole determines what the very elements that are composing this whole are like. We are examining all the tiny fragments that provide the basis for the whole, yet none of these separate entities is being prioritized over any other such. In other words, each composing element is equally important to the overall totality. Therefore, the global integral whole is being shaped and defined by each single individuality that it is consisted of. Any change in some of these building elements leads to change in the whole.
The main idea behind employing this technique is to change your parallel reality by changing the habits and views that constitute it. After all, our parallel reality is not our external environment but our internal reflection, therefore we can only change it from within. In 97% of the time, we are only thinking about ourselves without observing the others. Even when it appears as if we are thinking about the others, behind all the events, situations, reasons and factors (all of them external) that we display our ostensible concern about, we are actually still thinking about nothing but ourselves. Embracing this fact should be your starting point on the high road of honesty.
Here are couple of exercises through which you can nurture honesty – these will help you to appreciate the fact that it is but us who create our own parallel realities and they will guide your way to making them better. First comes honesty, then comes devotion to the others. Because what you put out is what you get back.
Are you willing to let the others tell you what to do for a week? Carry out this experiment without telling anyone. Just listen to the others and record your own reactions. When are you not being happy and why? When do you disagree with the task that they have allocated for you? On what occasions are you muttering and carrying out your task unwillingly? On what occasions are you carrying it out willingly? During this week of ‘obedience’, do you have to push yourself in order to do things willingly? Does it work? When and why it doesn’t work? Are you willing to ‘practice’ what you couldn’t simply ‘swallow’ for a more extended period of time?
If we are doing something long enough, we eventually start to derive pleasure and joy out of it, even when we have initially disliked the given activity. The same principle goes for relationships – we often lead ourselves by the cliché (or maybe a protective ego mechanism in disguise as these always are?) ‘’there is no second chance for first impression’’. If we initially have a strong dislike for someone, it tends to stay that way for a longer time. But if we start to explore this person in order to see what it is that we don’t like about him/her, we will see how we are starting to like him/her more and more in the process. Now are you ready to explore and examine the people that you dislike, or you still have your ‘good reasons’ that are preventing you from doing so? Is change what you really want, or you’re ‘better than that’ and you would rather distance yourself from the people that you don’t like? Are you being honest with yourself when you are smiling in the face of those that you hold a passionate dislike about? Are you looking for change or are you avoiding it? It is time to make up your mind. Just don’t forget who is in charge of your own parallel reality’s creation.
Observe the others in order to identify what it is that you dislike about them. Because we ourselves possess those things that we find annoying about the others. We can’t see and sense things that we don’t possess as frequency vibrations in ourselves. Write down and arrange everything that you find annoying into a list. This is your list of features and qualities that you need to change in yourself.